Thanks for reading and working with me all these years, and I look forward to seeing you in the new place soon! ♥
A pal of mine recently tweeted a link to RuPaul’s Plenty of Fish Profile, and I just have have HAVE to share it with you. Pics aside, let’s look at an excerpt, i.e. the entire “About Me” setting, at the time of this writing:
Ladies and gentlemen, THAT is how you inject some levity and personality and flair into an online dating profile. Be playful. Be gently profane. Add some insight and some genuine soul. Hats/wigs off to you, RPC.
Have you guys toyed with Crazy Blind Date, the new OKCupid service? No pics, just pick a time and place and agree to meet up. Forbes covered this launch, and OKCupid wiped the photos from all regular online dating profiles on Tuesday to promote the new service. From the Forbes piece:
This is absolutely true in my experience, though I don’t fit that mold and I know lots of women who don’t. I often have to push my male clients to stay upbeat and aggressive-yet-not to overcome the obstacle of pursuing women who take FOREVER to move things from conversation to action. (Thankfully, my awesome female clients tend to be the sort of women who don’t want to toy around indefinitely with the back and forth, which I suspect is part of why they seek me out in the first place.) I love that OKCupid’s founder is pushing people to overcome their many excuses and hurdles, and just get out and DATE!
There are some security issues, of course, but none that good common online dating safety can’t overcome. This is like a less Grindr-y version of geolocation dating apps; I think nudging people to use their online dating profiles to actually get out there and connect is awesome, especially if you’re lonely or antsy and haven’t made plans on a free night. I have to wonder if anyone will be taking advantage of this on Valentine’s Day… if so, I sure would love to hear how it goes! :)
Just remember, kids—hormones are fun and all, but setting up dates all super-speedy like this can lead to both parties taking things further physically than either one intended. So just because you decide to go on a Crazy Blind Date, don’t necessarily hop in the sack if you wouldn’t otherwise feel ready. A date can be just a date (and an invitation to hop in the sack down the road if you click. Don’t worry, I DO want you to get some, just on your own terms).
And with that, have a lovely weekend!
I’ve been watching a lot of streaming TV on my iPad ever since I inherited it from Grant, and there’s this one eHarmony ad spot that keeps playing over and over. (I can’t find a link, so please comment if you can.) It’s with a tall blonde gal named Briana, and she says she’s looking for “a deep relationship” with someone who can “make [her] laugh,” and “who can have a great time with [her]” — and that’s it. Those are her qualifications. Argh! I know I’m a pickypants about this stuff because I’m an online dating consultant and all, but come on, Briana! Give us more than that. :)
The problem is, this may sound great on TV, but in a written profile it comes off as way too generic. EVERYONE on eHarmony is looking for a deep relationship, with someone who can make them laugh, and have a great time with them. That’s like saying you’re seeking a meal that is filling and nutritious and also tastes good. Not enough info!
So here’s my little Virginia Pro Tip, daters. ALWAYS be specific. List specific books or movies or musicians or comedians that you love. It’s so much clearer than just stating even a genre. Whenever possible, conjure up a specific image instead of just a bunch of general statements that could apply to most single people — other daters are usually quite bad at this, so you’ll totally stand out from the crowd AND give a better window into your personality!
Man, I know I’m overdue with a Loveb.log post these days—for shame! It’s crazy that we’ve now lived in our gorgeous new home for over a year, yet I’ve never mentioned my home office or posted any pics. Clients! This is important! We no longer have to meet at a Starbucks where every other patron’s ears are burning with questions about your love life!
The amazing Erin over at House of Turquoise featured my home office on her lovely blog, and I’m grateful for the chance to share and get feedback from her savvy and helpful readers. Pop on over and take a peek, or check out this lil’ preview:
And can you believe it’s never occurred to me until now that you guys might wanna see my wedding photos? I mean, to be fair, my husband Grant is truly my best sales story, and we met on CRAIGSLIST of all places. If that’s not a can-do online dating consultant, I don’t know what is! Anyway, pics (and a preview of one of my faves):
Enjoy, and have a lovely post-holiday weekend!