The ugly side of Craig

Written by Virginia on May 11th, 2009

Man, I just hate it when an ad I post for a client winds up getting flagged and removed on Craigslist. Sure, sometimes it’ll happen for some minor Terms of Service violation, and I realize that that’s valid.

But MOST of the time, when one of my creations gets flagged and removed, it’s because someone out there is bitter and unhappy. In chatting with other daters who’ve seen this phenomenon, we’ve determined that it comes from a certain sub-section of Craigslist users — those who are so unhappy with their own romantic lives (or lack thereof) that their only satisfaction comes from raining a little misery onto the dating lives of other users.

To them, I say: give me a call! We CAN help lift you out of that misery and find you a match made in heaven — perhaps someone with whom you can eat ice cream in front of the treadmill window at the gym. :)

Technical Incompatibilities

Written by Virginia on May 7th, 2009

I just came across this article about technical incompatibilities with dating, and it definitely struck a chord.  I can’t stress this enough, daters: Make your level of tech comfort clear from the beginning!

Folks who hate email or texting are likely to wind up insanely annoyed by folks who can’t get enough Twitter in one day.  And daters who are big email or texting users may feel snubbed by dates who don’t get back to them quickly, even though no snub is intended.  (Heck, it took me years to learn that every time I send my mom an email, I have to call her to make sure she gets it!)

When Grant and I first got together, he was big into texting and I was still lukewarm on it.  But I soon adopted it, since I’m not much of a phone person after several years of working as a receptionist.  And now texting is often my preferred communication method, especially with my sweetheart.  (It doesn’t hurt that we now share free text messages with each other.)

I definitely have some friends who are no-text friends, no-email friends, or no-voicemail friends.  I don’t much mind adhering to these quirks, and I do think it’s important to be SOMEWHAT flexible — but this is bound to become a bigger issue with a significant other than with a casual friend.  Communicating with your sweetie shouldn’t be a chore!  The fact that Mr. Right doesn’t respond to your Facebook status updates may well be a deal breaker for some, and a breath of fresh air for others — so keep hunting until you find someone who meshes well with your style!

Aah, the pre-conceived notions.

Written by Virginia on April 25th, 2009

Whee, I’ve finally managed to make the time to get the blog working right for this site! It’s not much yet, but at some point I will likely start porting content over from my Seattle P-I Reader Blog, so keep an eye out for that in the coming weeks.

The main thing I’m excited to bring over is a couple of book reviews I did. The market for GOOD online dating books is pretty slim, and of course many of you know I’m already working on my own. But there are one or two really fun reads already out there that can help people get more comfortable with the idea.

And boy, do some folks need easing in! Of course, online dating is rapidly gaining caché as an acceptable way of meeting your match, so I run into this problem a lot less frequently than I used to. But MAN, have I crossed paths with a lot of people lately who have wildly inaccurate negative ideas about e-dating. I can’t wait to get my official word out there in print and help make a dent in that undeserved stereotype!